I am a man in my late 20s. My partner is in his early 70s. We have now been together a little over a year. We are in a long-term intergenerational relationship.

With this blog I have decided to share my story in the hope that others interested in or a part of an age disparate relationship will know they are not alone. I also hope that others may read this and find that the idea of a May to December romance really isn’t so strange or foreign; to combat some of the myths that pervade our culture.

I intend my posts to be frank and honest examinations of romance, family, friendship, and social norms and expectations. That said, the details of some anecdotes may be changed to protect the privacy of my friends and family. I hope that my story and my thoughts on the subject of relationships will provide insights to others. Also, I welcome others to share their thoughts, feelings and questions.

I think that many people I know have been curious as to how I came to be in a relationship with someone easily old enough to be my father. To be honest, I have never been attracted to men my own age. I build friendship with my peers well enough, but when it comes to romantic entanglements I have gravitated toward older men. But, to get to this point where I am happy and secure in my relationship, it took a lot of work. For a long time, even prior to meeting my partner, I agonized over my own emotions, insecure in where my feelings and desires were leading me. As our relationship grew, I think my partner and I were careful in cultivating our relationship. We realized that, as a couple, we would face unique challenges. Our relationship hasn’t always been easy, particularly how others have perceived and reacted to us. We’ve experienced our share of odd looks and awkward silences. And, I expect we will face further challenges as time passes. Ultimately, it has been completely worth it though, to be with someone that makes me so happy.

When I first really started examining my own interest in older men I remember feeling anxiety and feeling unsure of myself. In discussing specific challenges to and myths about intergenerational relationships, I hope this blog will serve an audience that is under served. And, I hope that this blog can be a place for a diverse group of people to come together to reflect on romantic relationships and how they intersect the rest of our lives.